For a very long time i have wanted to write my own blog mainly because I always have a lot to say and because I enjoy to write and share my thoughts with the people around me, even if no one was to read this. As of recent I became engaged to my boyfriend Nathan of a year and a half and I couldn't be any happier as he is such a sweetheart and its the cliche I feel I have known him for so much longer than almost 2 years. However, there are a few things i have noticed throughout this time that has either aggravated me or made me think 'why?!' so here goes '5 things I wasn't told before becoming a soldier's girlfriend….'
1. It's sooooooo vicious
Not just other girls but the mentality of it too, I am naturally a very shy and anxious person and with Nathan's job there are gonna be times like weddings and such where I am going to meet people he works with which is daunting enough. However, not all the time are these people exactly nice back it seem's like army lads have a very weird sense of humour like they LOVEEEEE to insult girls a lot and think they wont get offended or saying anything back. I'm 100% a hot head and when someone takes something too far I cannot bite my tongue especially if it involves anyone saying anything bad about Nathan because he works so hard to provide a future for us both.
This however is a minor issue in comparison to the dreaded 'army wives' this is the appropriate time to add in horror music because some of these ladies are on the dark side literally hahaha. I have only ever been to Nathan's army barracks twice as he is based down South and it is a four hour drive from Manchester to their and honestly I only go to spend time with Nathan with the pressure of family and everything sometimes you just want a break. Anyway, when visiting camp all the other soldiers I met were lovely however the girls/ladies for some reason are SO RUDE… for absolutely no reason see maybe its a location thing but even though I have anxiety I'm not rude to people, it it literally like a pack of lions that wait for a moment to attack with them staring and figuring out who you are and who you 'belong' too all while flipping their highlighted hair that Pam did from the local hairdressers hunnie xoxo.
Now Nathan is a pretty highly respected soldier in his battalion and everyone knows he's a hard working guy (well that's what he's told me hahaha) but to the wives hell no that does not matter because their husbands are top ranks like sergeants and corporals so they look down at you because your just a partner of a lance corporal or a fusilier. It's pretty harsh because not once will these women talk to you and have no clue who you are or what you do as a job but until your partner is a better rank you don't fit in, that's why I'm so thankful I don't live down South and do not have to deal with this everyday.
2. It makes you worry more than normal
When your other half is not in the army there is less of a chance they will get seriously hurt in comparison to a soldier's girlfriend that hears a lot of stories about someone accidentally firing a gun and killing her boyfriend or how much damage a mortar can do. It's like having a constant toothache and you hope they are okay but when you finally get a text you feel a little relieved but the feeling always comes back hahaha. Along with the constant fear of them getting hurt isn't enough there is also the worry of deployments, I have only had one major one so far and I hated every second even though I was happy he was having a great time when he wasn't working.
The only time I don't worry about Nathan is when we are together or when he is sleeping because I know he is safe or I'm by his side hahaha. The only nice thing about the deployment/training is when you receive unexpected texts and you appreciate what they are doing for you (maybe it's just the fact you miss them that makes you all sopey but it's a nice feeling) and the moment they return and you see them for the first time nothing compares to that moment.
3. Girls are desperate for a soldier
Linking back to the first reason girls in regards to soldiers are vicious, it seems like having a soldier as a boyfriend is a bragging right but when I met Nathan I had no clue he was in the army until he sent me a Snapchat at work and I was like ''oh you are in the army?" yet it never changed my opinion of him. It makes me proud of him but I have no need or want to scream it to the world because that is who he is and that is who I support. However, there are always people in this world that use situations for their own person gains. I have always had faith in Nathan and full trust as he has never gave me reasons to doubt him yet after his return from Canada I received a rather 'cruel' message shall I say from a random girl implying Nathan had been unfaithful and without even asking him I felt crushed and heartbroken but piecing it together I realised that Nathan had not done this and after speaking to Nathan's sergeant he told me girls do this a lot to ruin something special all because of jealousy and his wife told me the same that girls had this done to her several times. Honestly, it made me and Nathan closer and stuck the thought in my mind that you cannot trust everything someone says to you especially this stranger that I knew nothing about. That was 5 months ago now and me and Nathan are looking forward to getting our own place and two big dogs and just having a family.
'Sometimes some people just want to see the world burn'
This is probably a big one along with number 5 anyone reading this probably thinks 'she met her fiancé 18 months ago and you are already engaged thats so fast' but combined with the worry and the lack of time together every second together is special so engagements sometimes do come pretty quickly under this circumstance. I have had to explain this many times but when you feel like the person you love could go to work and be hurt or not come back at all due to a horrific accident then you kind of feel like you wanna be near them and be more than just a girlfriend/boyfriend because you never know how long you have together left. You just want to enjoy what little time you have and the more aggravation I get from wanting to be happy and an adult the more I distance myself from the people who don't agree (normally people who's opinions don't matter and don't know anything about my life or Nathan's).
5. Everyone thinks their opinion matters
This is the one that makes me want to scream, with the thought of an engagement and things being 'rushed' people around you suddenly assume their opinions are the centre of your attention and that you should listen to them. For a long time I was asked if being engaged was the right choice and honestly it is because I love Nathan I have known that since the moment I met him and I never understand when it became anyone's duty to stop two people making their relationship stronger. People have assumed that because they have been with their partner for longer that their next step is to get engaged but I shouldn't because 'I haven't been through enough to know it's love and the right choice' but these opinions come from people who know very little of my relationship or about me and Nathan as people. Sometimes you just have to do what makes yourself happy and be a little selfish rather than making other happy.
Well thank you my lovelies for reading my first blog post! All my love,
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