Army Relationship : The frequently asked questions...

I have had a recent spark on inspiration when it comes to my blog, wanting to fill it with makeup,fashion and relationship chatter haha. Now I haven't been with Nathan as long as some other relationships but I have been with him long enough to have some experience with how I deal with the distance and hard times.

'Do you not get paranoid with him being away and not knowing what he's doing?'

In all honesty I don't because me and Nathan have been through so much that I know he wouldn't do anything to hurt me. I know how it feels to be cheated on and it is awful and Nathan knows that too and we have a level of mutual respect for each other, he respects what I do and I respect what he does. When you get this far into a serious relationship you don't want to mess around and loose something so lovely, like I have spent a year and a half with Nathan and everything we have done together and grown as individual people would all be a waste. Speaking to other wives/fiances/girlfriends I'm not the only one who has got a message of a jealous girl saying there partner cheated on them while they were deployed etc. Honestly it hurts at first and then i think but would he do that? I know my Nathan and he is always too busy face timing me or on his playstation/eating/sleeping to want to cheat with another girl. As for the not knowing what he's doing its a constant I phoned him early he was having a food fight with his work colleagues so I told him I loved him and said I'd call him later. Yet it works both ways he could be wondering what I'm doing and worrying which he does a lot but he does so much for me and makes me so happy that I'm normally just asleep or shopping haha.

'Do you get jealous seeing him doing all this stuff while your left out?'
 YES! YES! YES! It drives me crazy, when he was deployed to Canada which was his biggest deployment yet I was so jealous I have always wanted to go to Canada (maybe it's a hope I'll see Justin Bieber I don't know haha) and just try out the shopping and the lifestyle. But more than anything Nathan got to go sky diving and I was so jealous seeing the videos from it because I would have loved to have done that. I have been to his camp with him twice and I'm always begging him to take me to see tanks and Bulldogs and other vehicles but he can't yet I'm still hoping he might one day haha. He has promised to take me to Canada for a holiday though, however this year I'm not too fussed about where he is going there not that exciting so I don't think I will be jealous of him in the jungle haha!

'How do you deal with being apart so much?' 
This is going to sound really mean but when you spend like a few days or a weekend with someone you enjoy a bit of time to yourself, just to get yourself back on track especially for work. My parents respect the fact that I don't know when Nathan will next be home so when he is back for a weekend I spent a lot of time with him. When we first started dating I would see him on a Saturday and then he had Friday night when he got home and Sunday until he left with his family which I still try to stick too.
During deployments however like Canada that was 2 months apart, I had to find myself more hobbies to stick too to pass the time for instance going to the gym so by the time Nathan got back I had lost 2 stone and he was like 'woah new girlfriend haha' and he had become all tanned and tonned from all the working and exercise he had done while out there. However, I also had like silly little things to keep me going like videos of us together like cuddling or messing around that make us laugh and I had a jar that I transferred stones from one to the other for each day he had been gone and when he would be home.

Examples of I coped such as time zone, a special bracelet and symbolic jars.

'Do you think it's rushed getting engaged so quickly and having a family?'

When you start a relationship with someone in the army/navy anything like that your perspective changes massively. Mine didn't straight away I told Nathan I would not get engaged till I was at least 21 and then the more I found out about his job the more my mind changed. Maybe it was the stories Nathan told me they worried me a little, maybe it was him trying to convince me. However, the way you see it is your partner is more at risk of getting hurt even when there at home on camp and your life can change forever. I mean everyone has that risk but there's more chance of a soldier being horrifically injured. So with this risk I suppose you just wanna have as much happiness and adventures in the short time you do have. Honestly it is so hard waiting at home for someone in the army to come home, after Nathan's 2 month deployment I just wanted to hug him so much like I hugged him for a full 5 minutes and I cried I was so happy haha. So when someone makes you so happy you want that to last. 

You find a lot though in this kind of case people think there opinions matter just because someone has been together 2/3 years doesn't mean there ready to get married or engaged. Whereas, when you know your a strong couple with loyalty and trust and you wait day and night for someone to get home and still struggle with normal couple things like a family, buying a house and both working while at the same time have to love someone that you can barely see sometimes you know you are ready. Sorry if I sound condescending. But I had someone tell me the other day I haven't been through enough to know I want to get engaged but that was off someone who doesn't know me or my relationship. But I suppose it's always just about what me and Nathan want and as long as we are happy.

'Do you have any specific things that remind you of Nathan?'

I do actually, before he went to Canada he bought me a Build-A-Bear that was camouflage and then I bought the army uniform/boots/hat and backpack and I must say he is VERY cute! Nathan named him after himself SHOCK! But he has a beating heart which Nathan said will remind me of him and know his heart is still beating and a button that I can press and it tells me 'I love you!' which made me smile when he turned up to uni with it for me.

Before I picked up his uniform and boots.

 Nathan has bought me so many bears over the past few years, but I also have sentimental pictures of him and special days like our anniversary, Valentine's Day and the day we got engaged. I have certain songs that remind me of Nathan which I will play on repeat when I miss him a lot for instance: 

• Wiz Khalifa ft Charlie Puth - See you again 

This song was the song I played on repeat when he was in Canada I know it's about like death and loosing someone but it reminded me so much of Nathan and seeing him again.

• Meghan Trainor ft John Legend - Like I'm gonna loose you

This is the song I have my heart set on as our first dance song because it's so beautiful and explains that you don't have forever but you have right now and that's all that should matter.

• Ed Sheeran - Thinking Out Loud

This song is so beautiful! I tried to get Nathan to learn to dance from the video for our first dance but that will not happen he isn't a dancer unless he has been drinking haha! But this was my second choice for our first dance song. I think it's the lyric 'we found love right where we are' which made me think me and Nathan came together by ourselves and we were best friends and just fell for each other.

• John Legend - All of me

I found a recent love for this song at my friends Amy and Sean's Christmas Wedding who we know because Sean is Nathan's army colleague, it was so beautiful watching them dance to this for there first dance and he sang the song to her the whole time. I actually cried! I won't cramp there style and steal there song but it makes me so happy because I love Nathan the way those two love each other.

• Christina Perri - A thousand years

Yes the classic Twilight - Breaking Dawn Song! This song was played when Amy walked down the aisle and it was so amazing I cried again hahaha. But this song is so well link with how much I love Nathan and how I will always love him and stand by him. Waiting is a big part of his job and this song talks about waiting a long time for love.

It seems so sentimental and soppy but special things like that do make you happy and how when someone is far away and can't come home it eases the wait.

Well that's all for now and I've answered some of the most asked questions I get a lot, even though they get a bit tiring of answering. Thanks for reading my lovelies!